On" Why Men Love Bitches"

Last week, I dropped by at my favorite bookstore to pick up the books I have reserved. As I was waiting for them to be retrieved, I noticed a pile of books at the counter. On top of that pile was Sherry Argov's Why Men Love Bitches. I told the lady at the counter, "Please include this one, too."

I started reading the book on Friday night and since then I wasn't able to put it down. Today, I'm down to the last chapter. It's that engaging.

Not only was the book written in such a lighthearted manner, but of Ms. Sherry's 100 Atraction Principles, not one can hardly be argued to be wrong or far from the truth. While reading, I actually found myself saying, "If only every woman got to read this, it could have saved a lot from miseries and heartaches."

More than providing tips on how to win over a guy, this is about empowering women. However, men don't have anything to fear because the book actually makes it easier for women to understand things from a male's point-of-view. That is, if the guy is actually serious with the girl. Otherwise, yes, the book is bad news to "players". Lol

Some of the lessons I have learned from my previous relationships are in Ms. Argov's 249-page book that I had to let a laugh or a chuckle every now and then. Some of the lessons I wanted to impart to those who come to me for relationship advice are in there also, more articulately explained.

Last week, I distinctly remember telling a friend in distraught to keep her dignity and I'm happy to find in the book that it's the Attraction Principle # 100: The most attractive quality of all is dignity.

Reviewing Sherry's 100 Attraction Principles made me feel like I was taking a quiz to find out whether I'm a "bitch" or a "nice" girl. Well, I'm relieved to find out I'm a bitch. Lol To understand who is defined as a "bitch", I highly recommend that you read the book if you still haven't. And if I can still add one more to Ms. Argov's book, it is this:

More than love, go for something that will give you your peace of mind.

Men: 4 Little Details

Two weeks ago, I read an article written by Rich Santos and Marie Claire entitled "4 little details men notice about women". At the end of their entry, the authors left this question:

What is a little thing (appearance, moment or personality) that you notice in a guy that is a simple beautiful thing?

And to which I answer -

How a guy (1) walks and (2) laughs.

These two are on the same category - they largely depend on a woman's preference. And the beauty of it is you can't fake them in much the same way that you can't fake pheromones. You find one appealing over the other simply just because.

I personally prefer a "walk" that reveals how self-assured a guy is and a "laugh" that's unguarded and uncalculated. No descriptions available. Lol I can spot one when I see one.

His (3) hands

I want a hand that isn't like that of a woman's! When a guy's hand is flawless and without any traces of veins (like with those who do workouts or who are engaged in sports), I instantly get the impression that the guy has nothing productive to do with his life but bum around.

I need to see "strength" in them so I can very well conclude that he can defend me if and when the need arises. He's the knight-in-shining-armor and I'm the damsel-in-distress, not the other way around.

(4) How he is with his other guy friends.

Is he regardged with esteem or is he treated like the loser in the group? Can he get along well with them? Is he able to exchange banters with them? Is there a certain warmth and camaraderie directed to him by male friends and acquaintances?

I want a man who can carry his own. With his friends and acquaintances is the first place I'd look to gauge if he can.

Pluto is Moving

"Monday November 24 - Moon in Libra

"Moon Meditation: "Ready to release…"

"We are now just a few days away from the mega-astro-event of the years, which is the third and final move of the planet Pluto out of Sagittarius and into the sign of Capricorn. If you're wondering why astrologers have been banging on and on about this all year, it's because Pluto first moved into Capricorn on January 26, before reversing out and then back and out again during his retrograde. And now we're ready for the real thing. No more toe dipping. Pluto is about letting go. What do you need to let go of? Remember, if you love something and you let it go, it certainly doesn't mean it won't come back to you."

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Pluto enters Capricorn on Thursday (11/27/08). May we all contemplate wisely on the days before Pluto finally leaves Sagittarius.

To A Sis

You will always be remembered with fondness.

Travel well, Sis Sheng.

The YouTube Era

Boston Legal, Season 4

Episode: Attack of the Xenophobes
SOURCE

In Judge Clark Brown's courtroom. Clarence is on the stand as the video of him on YouTube is playing. Attorney Michael Eaves clicks a remote to stop the video.

Judge Clark Brown: Outrageous!
Attorney Michael Eaves: Mr. Bell, the footage fairly and accurately depicts what happened doesn't it?
Clarence Bell: Yes. But it doesn't tell the whole story.
Attorney Michael Eaves: Have you gone out in public dressed as a woman before?
Clarence Bell: Yes.
Attorney Michael Eaves: In fact you once joined an All-Girls Gym. Isn't that correct?
Clarence Bell: Yes.
Attorney Michael Eaves: You recently signed up for a singing contest in drag. You've gone to work in drag.
Clarence Bell: But that moment, without context makes me look...like...
Attorney Michael Eaves: You're a lawyer.
Clarence Bell: I am.
Attorney Michael Eaves: Are you familiar with Section 230 of the Communications Decency Act?
Clarence Bell: Yes, but...
Attorney Michael Eaves: It expressly protects on-line services from defamation arising from material posted on their sites by individuals.
Carl Sack: Your Honor! This was an extremely embarrassing event aired world-wide, on a web site, absent the context that occassioned it.
Judge Clark Brown: The footage depicts what happened. So where's the damage?
Carl Sack: Your Honor. Think of it. We've all had a meltdown or two. A mortifying episode of some sort. Typically we're allowed to live those moments down. But now, thanks to the internet, we can't. Suppose...He lifts the small video camera in his hand as he walks toward the judge...I taped you as Justice Bubblehead?
Judge Clark Brown: Put that thing down!
Carl Sack: How would you like to be defined...
Judge Clark Brown: Put it down this instant!
Carl Sack: He puts the camera down. My point is life's little embarrassing moments are now having far-reaching and more devastating consequences. If the day has come that we are going to be publicly and globally shamed by our foolish missteps then the laws of defamation should keep pace. Certainly when these Tort Laws were drafted, the legislators never contemplated You Tube.

* * * * * *

In Judge Clark Brown's courtroom. He comes in wearing a red helmet again. He motions for everybody to sit.

Judge Clark Brown: Alright. First off, I will have no comment about my modified head gear. Truth is always a complete defense against defamation. That's the law. But I am mindful that a 30-second video blog without the proper context do not always capture the truth. I'm also mindful that we live in a video world now where every Tom, Dick and Harry with a cellphone is a de facto cameraman. And via the internet, a distributor. Maybe current Tort Laws do need adjusting. But right now, as they are written, they offer no remedy to those who may be humiliated by this. The case is therefore dismissed. As a footnote, if anybody in this room did take footage, movie or still, of me in my headgear, you are hereby enjoined from posting it anywhere. He rises. We are adjourned. As he gets down from the bench, he stumbles on the step down and falls flat on his face. The guard helps him up. I'm okay.

x x x

Carl Sack: I think the best for us all to remember is: if you're out in public, assume the cameras are watching.

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This came to mind after reading a particular blog post a few hours ago where human frailty was subjected to scrutiny under a magnigying glass.

I am not saying that what was written in that blog entry was incorrect. On the contrary, it is, in all points, absolutely right. It, however, makes second chances and learning from past mistakes difficult.

We are all evolving and have, in fact, evolved, mostly because we have learned from our mistakes. Life is beautiful that way - it gives you another shot to redeem yourself over and over and over...until you get it right. It is hard enough to admit that one has erred (or has had a meltdown or two), all the more is it difficult to try to make things right when you have been prejudged...publicly.

Certain people make it their mantra to rub it in your face how wrong you were. And certain blogs - they propagate too much hate. So vindictive.

To err is human. We should provide enough leeway for others to live those moments down.

My Dream Flats

It must be the ads, but these days I'm so loving flats on a casual day.

I've never been into flats. All my pairs have heels, screaming heels. And I got the only pair of open-toed flats that I have because my feet were aching on a shopping marathon I had last year. And since I bought it, I've only used it a handful of times.

This week, I decided to take some time off from my sched to look for the perfect flats I've been dreaming of. And you wouldn't believe how simple I've wanted it to be...

Patent, pointed but not too pointed, black,
without any touch of artistry.
Simple, classic black flats.

I've looked everywhere the past month and I've tried a dozen but only this pair took my breath away. Unlike the other flats I've tried on, this one doesn't make the feet look smaller or wider. It's so comfortable that I wanted to buy 2 pairs of the same color, but unfortunately (or fortunately?), I got the last pair of my size!

When I saw my dream flats, I didn't ask how much they cost. I was scared to ask, actually. They were so beautiful that I thought it costs more than I was willing to spend for. Come payment time, for a moment I wasn't able to move or say anything. I blinked once, mouth half-open. It's...it's...cheap. It's beautiful and perfect and cheap. Hallelujah.

I was beaming as I walked out of the mall.

A Gary V. Song

When I Hear You Call



Very re-assuring..

Where the Hell is Matt? (2008)

VIDEO TITLE: WHERE THE HELL IS MATT? (2008)

MUSIC: Praan by Garry Schyman

MY THOUGHTS: Dancing in its purest form. It's about life, embracing life. It validates the existence of a universal language that all peoples from different walks of life, race and creed understand. It embodies love, hope, joy and peace. The feeling it evokes transcends time and space. It spans the distance between and amongst.

Aum.

A great week ahead to everyone!

On "40 Rules Men Wish Women Knew"

1. If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us.
2. Learn to work the toilet seat: if it's up put it down.
3. Don't cut your hair. Ever.
4. Birthdays, Valentines, and Anniversaries are not quests to see if he can find the perfect present, again!
5. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, expect an answer you don't want to hear.
6. Sometimes, he's not thinking about you. Live with it.
7. Don't ask him what he's thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as navel lent, the shotgun formation and monster trucks.
8. Get rid of your cat. And no, it's not different, it's just like every other cat.
9. Dogs are better than ANY cats. Period.
10. Sunday = Sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be.
11. Shopping is not sport.
12. Anything you wear is fine. Really.
13. You have enough clothes.
14. You have too many shoes.
15. Crying is blackmail. Use it if you must, but don't expect us to like it.
16. Your brother is an idiot, your ex-boyfriend is an idiot and your Dad probably is too.
17. Ask for what you want. Subtle hints don't work.
18. No, he doesn't know what day it is. He never will. Mark anniversaries on a calendar.
19. Yes, pissing standing up is more difficult than peeing from point blank range. We're bound to miss sometimes.
20. Most guys own two to three pairs of shoes-what makes you think we'd be any good at choosing which pair, out of thirty, would look good with your dress?
21. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers.
22. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor.
23. Your Mom doesn't have to be our best friend.
24. Foreign films are best left to foreigners.
25. Check your oil.
26. Don't give us 50 rules when 25 will do.
27. Don't fake it. We'd rather be ineffective than deceived.
28. It is neither in your best interest nor ours to take the quiz together.
29. Anything we said 6 or 8 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. All comments become null and void after 7 days.
30. If you don't dress like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't expect us to act like soap opera guys.
31. If something we said can be interpreted two ways, and one of the ways makes you sad and angry, we meant the other one.
32. Let us ogle. If we don't look at other women, how can we know how pretty you are?
33. Don't rub the lamp if you don't want the genie to come out.
34. You can either ask us to do something OR tell us how you want it done not both.
35. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials.
36. Christopher Columbus didn't need directions, and neither do we.
37. Women wearing Wonderbras and low-cut blouses lose their right to complain about having their boobs stared at.
38. Consider Golf a mini-vacation from you. We need it, just like you do.
39. Telling us that the models in the men's magazines are airbrushed makes you look jealous and petty and it's certainly not going to deter us from reading the magazines.
40. The relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we were going out.

Red: Ones where he laughed the hardest. (My reaction: B*tch@assmothahf?!#?@%!)

Saturn and Uranus

Saturn will be in opposition to Uranus tomorrow. Uranus is the ruling planet of Aquarius. Saturn is conservative/traditional. Uranus is the opposite, so it's north meeting south tomorrow. There's going to be a clash and I'm supposed to find a balance. Not my (a stubborn Aquarian) strongest point. Lol Let's see if I'd get the chance to practice my girlfriends' words of wisdom (supposing tomorrow will be about it, girls!). I've yet to see how this will affect me. Favorably, I pray.

Saturn in opposition to Uranus, I've read, is something that has not occured since 1965. Let's see how this will turn out. I'm not sure either how this will affect other signs, but whether it's good or bad, take note as Saturn will be in opposition to Uranus AGAIN on February 5, 2009, September 15, 2009, April 26, 2010 and July 26, 2010. So how it will affect you tomorrow will most likely be the same for the dates I've mentioned.

(Source: http://www.astrologyzone.com/)

Let's see how the different (astrological) signs will be affected tomorrow.